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Understanding The Seduction Community

real social dynamics - 2 years ago - admin

The Seduction Community began as a subculture whose purpose is to help men achieve greater romantic success with women, and to improve social confidence. It gained popularity by way of internet forums and word of mouth. Men give each other advice and share techniques on how to get women, following the tenets of the “player manual” – a collection of information meant to “reprogram” the AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) into a PUA (Pick Up Artist).

Generally speaking, the advice and techniques are meant as social “training wheels” but what often happens is that they become much more important than learning to ride the bike. You get men who become overly reliant on them, integrating them into their personality, and never outgrow them because they have gotten attached to whatever success they have achieved using them (which usually isn’t much). It’s this unhealthy attachment that the community is notorious for creating.

Moreover, the techniques are often harsh and deceitful, calling for the use of manipulation tactics designed to keep women “off balance” as a way to increase their attraction and sexual receptivity. The justification is that, it works for other men and that’s the way things are with respect to women. This leads to many community members accumulating certain personality traits over time, as they try to assimilate this information. This results in a “montage” of weird and negative behavior.

They begin to see women as adversaries in their quest for sexual happiness and see other men as competition. They view male and female interactions as slightly robotic and as her testing him and rejecting him if he makes any “technical mistake”. This often creates an atmosphere of confrontation, causing women to “push back”, aggravating the original view that women are working against him, resulting in a vicious cycle.

This pattern of behavior can go on for years, in various degrees depending on the individual. Most men experience little to moderate success, eventually leaving the community. In other, more rare cases, some achieve a high degree of success despite their inevitable misogyny, and teach newcomers what they know. They have usually gained a lot of followers, and have become well respected in the community. For this they are the most dangerous, as they have a tendency to (indirectly) attack men’s self-worth while being regarded as a source of good information.

It’s an ongoing cycle, with a lot of bad fallout. Unfortunately, many men are unwilling to question this “system” because they feel that the alternative is going back to being an “AFC” – dateless and not having any girls.

Unfortunately, most are not shown that there is a way to do things where you are not an “AFC” or a “PUA”, but a man.

I personally feel that it’s a collective lack of wisdom that is the root of this. Too many young men with little life experience have found a niche with other like-minded men, and are regulating themselves without any elders to show them the way. This is partly a consequence of the politically correct western culture, which tends to create a void where masculinity is concerned. In many cases, traditional values have been abandoned in the name of “change” forcing some of us to relearn those values through trial and error.

Masculinity is fragile, which means men need good role models because our path is easily corrupted. And part of this path is realizing that a real man doesn’t follow “techniques” to get women because it puts him at the mercy of their responses. Such a man would never give up his personal power in that way. Indeed, getting women is not a panacea for manhood.

© 2007 Jakob Bachman

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